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10/30/06

Why I don't want Ricky down the street

Posted by : Michelle Vandepas in Foster Adoption Blog at 09:08 am , 334 words, 150 views
Categories: Reunification

Maybe I should explain why I’m not thrilled that Ricky and mom live down the street.

He has to change schools again – and she probably won’t take the time to do it for a while. I’m sure he’ll be out of school for months now. This will be about his sixth school in two years.

Every time she moves her welfare checks get lost in the system and she goes into emergency mode without food, gas etc. I always get panicked calls, and I refer her to a couple of churches I know that can help. Same routine every few months.

Her car is old and decrepit and shouldn’t be on the road for more than a mile to the grocery store. As I mentioned in my previous post, we are twenty minutes from anything.

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She doesn’t have a driver’s license or insurance – drive a few blocks to get groceries is one thing, driving a long way every day is another. She’s been in jail before for driving infringements – like no license. She’s a repeat offender on this issue. AURGH.

It is too easy for her to drop by announced. I guess that one is obvious.

It costs more money to live out of town - heat, gas, etc… Which she clearly doesn’t have.

There isn’t any support system where she lives. She won’t have a trailer park full of people willing to baby-sit or watch out for Ricky. He doesn’t have other kids to play with. They are pretty isolated.

If it storms, her car won't make it home in any kind of snow storm. I'd hate her to be stuck somewhere out on a snowy road.

I’m sure I could go on, but she’s excited about living way out where no one can find her.

Hasn’t she heard that wherever you go, there you are?

Why he is living down the street.

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Comment from: everywoman [Member]

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