Comments on: Top Ten Intrusive Questions: Number Six http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/top-ten-intrusive-questions-number-six News and information for those planning to adopt through foster care as well as firsthand accounts of those who have. Tue, 09 Mar 2010 18:12:20 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Angie S. http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/top-ten-intrusive-questions-number-six/comment-page-1#comment-395 Angie S. Mon, 27 Jul 2009 00:12:14 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/03/19/top-ten-intrusive-questions-number-six#comment-395 Renee,<br /> Thank you for your post on this topic. So many people are quick to<br /> suggest the one-size fits all solutions. It is always easier to make quick judgments from the outside looking in.<br /> <br /> Before my bio. son was diagnosed with ADHD in preschool, several people told me that he needed more spankings to get him under control. My father was certain that it was a "parenting" deficit that was causing the problems. The ADHD gene runs strong on my husband's side of the family. Now, 6 years later, my father (& the others) believe in the validity of ADHD and see the positive results of appropriate intervention. <br /> <br /> I also agree with Nancy Mae's comment. In our foster parenting class there were some scary adults and I wouldn't wish for any children to live with them. How can you KNOW all of the answers BEFORE you even meet the child you will be fostering and/or adopting? That's impossible!<br /> <br /> My plan is to remain open to learning new strategies for the rest of my life. Nothing is set in stone and things that work/don't work are constantly changing with each child that we parent. When I'm going through a difficult season of parenting, I like to think that God gave me the child that He did because He knows I can handle the responsibility... with His help of course.<br /> <br /> Renee,
Thank you for your post on this topic. So many people are quick to
suggest the one-size fits all solutions. It is always easier to make quick judgments from the outside looking in.

Before my bio. son was diagnosed with ADHD in preschool, several people told me that he needed more spankings to get him under control. My father was certain that it was a “parenting” deficit that was causing the problems. The ADHD gene runs strong on my husband’s side of the family. Now, 6 years later, my father (& the others) believe in the validity of ADHD and see the positive results of appropriate intervention.

I also agree with Nancy Mae’s comment. In our foster parenting class there were some scary adults and I wouldn’t wish for any children to live with them. How can you KNOW all of the answers BEFORE you even meet the child you will be fostering and/or adopting? That’s impossible!

My plan is to remain open to learning new strategies for the rest of my life. Nothing is set in stone and things that work/don’t work are constantly changing with each child that we parent. When I’m going through a difficult season of parenting, I like to think that God gave me the child that He did because He knows I can handle the responsibility… with His help of course.

]]> By: nancymae http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/top-ten-intrusive-questions-number-six/comment-page-1#comment-394 nancymae Wed, 29 Apr 2009 02:04:59 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/03/19/top-ten-intrusive-questions-number-six#comment-394 In to many cases a "good whoppin'" is what gets kids into foster care in the first place. I was actually flabbergasted at our foster parent training at how any potential foster parents actually argued with the instructor when they where told they could not physically discipline a foster child. Even if the kid is a relative? I came away from the class feeling sad for kids going into relative placements. <br /> <br /> In to many cases a “good whoppin’” is what gets kids into foster care in the first place. I was actually flabbergasted at our foster parent training at how any potential foster parents actually argued with the instructor when they where told they could not physically discipline a foster child. Even if the kid is a relative? I came away from the class feeling sad for kids going into relative placements.

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