My whole family is with us for Christmas in Colorado this year. As I have mentioned before in this blog, my family is supportive of our journey to adopt, and they all love K as any other family member.

Other adoptive families I know aren’t so lucky. Not everyone is supportive of adoptive children or foster children. One foster mom I know has been cut off from her family ties as they don’t agree with her decision to foster-adopt and won’t see her children as hers or part of their family.

A neighborhood mother we used to have next door to us, wouldn’t let our foster children play with her children. She’d whisper about our kids as we went by for a walk, and even if we were all outside, this mom would pull her children close as we walked by.

Obviously, she had some pretty big preconceived notions about foster children. Maybe she even had some experience that led her to be extra cautious – cruel even to our family.

In a different part of town, I have a friend who wants children but her husband refuses to adopt, saying he could never love a child that wasn’t his.

Huh?

He loves his wife, learned to love past girlfriends I presume, and must at least have some feelings for his in-laws. Why couldn’t he love a child that wasn’t his?

I don’t get it.

It seems so easy to love ‘other people’s’ children. I have loved a lot of them. Some I’ve loved more than others, some where more difficult than others, but it never occurred to me that I couldn’t love.

Now of course I know that in reality, adoptions disrupt for many reasons; there are abusive adoptive parents, and that sometimes you just connect better with one child than another. I wish all those things weren’t truth.

I’m sure lucky to have a family that loves K like I do.

It's going to be a great Christmas.


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