Ok, we can all breathe a sigh of relief.
The high court in New Jersey will not be interfering in your life after you adopt. Well, at least they will not be forcing sibling visitation after adoption.
The New Jersey Supreme Court declined yesterday to decide whether siblings who are separated by adoption have a constitutional right to visit each other regardless of their parents' wishes.
However, this same court conceded yesterday that siblings do have a right to visit each other when separated by foster care:
The high court urged lawmakers to examine the "competing public policy concerns" and consider revising existing law, which gives siblings a right to visit each other while they are in foster care but not once they are adopted.
And then, listen to the voice of reason by a spokesman for the Attorney General
Our position in this case was essentially that adoptive parents are no different than any other parents. They should decide what is best for their children," Lee Moore, a spokesman for Attorney General Zulima Farber, said.
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Of course, there is always another side to the argument::
Sibling relationships are irreplaceable," Katz said. "Maintaining those relationships shouldn't depend upon a voluntary agreement. It absolutely needs to be part of a court order." Five states empower judges to order sibling visitation over the objections of adoptive parents.
You know, the adoptive parents I have contact with always try to do what is best for their children. If contact with siblings would be adding to their lives and enriching it, they would do it. I don't know many parents who deliberately want to keep siblings seperated out of spite.
But I love that New Jersey wants the
parents to decide what is best.
that adoptive parents are no different than any other parents.... Humm, I 'm not sure I completely agree, adoptive parents have a lot more to worry about and issues to learn about than some other parents. Foster adopt parents have already have visitation issues, abuse, neglect etc. I know that in terms of love and caring and wanting to do the best, they are not any different.
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What's your take on this?