In my spring cleaning blog I asked for topics that you would like covered. Theresa brought up the $64 million question. Respite, how to get it, getting it covered, etc. I am going to tackle this question because it comes up so frequently with the parents we work with.



First I should address the question of “what is respite?” Respite is like a time out for both parents and kids.

It is a time for the kids to go to another home to give the parents a break. Some parents plan respite at regular intervals, others only use respite when they are in the midst of a difficult time.

There are also two different types of respite.

Nurturing respite- This is usually done with younger children, or when it is a planned or regularly scheduled respite. The child is part of the family they are staying with. There is usually a lot of time spent helping the child understand what being a part of a family is about.

Boot Camp respite- There is much controversy over the name and the activities of this type of respite. This is usually done with older kids, or kids whose behavior is disrupting the family or being unsafe to the rest of the family. Meals are very simple, but still nutritious. Peanut butter sandwiches, fruit and milk might be a meal. Simple, but nutritious. Chores are assigned on an age appropriate level. The child does not participate in fun events that the family does.

I have done respite on several occasions, and had even done respite with Hannah prior to her being placed in our home, and I have done both types of respite. I ask the parents what type of respite they want done, and what they want to accomplish while the kids are at my house.

The biggest problem is where do you find respite. Part of it depends on what you’re looking for. Do you want babysitting, or do you want someone who understands your child? How is your child acting in the home? Can your child manipulate care givers easily? This will greatly influence what avenue you pursue.

The other aspect is foster vs. adoption. If your child is not officially adopted yet, you will need to check with your agency for what the requirements are. Some will only allow you to use a licensed care giver or authorized respite provider. If this is the case, they should be able to provide you with a list of approved care givers.

To be continued.....

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