The competing agency called me yesterday and I was explaining what type of children I’d like to take in.

I’ve gotten very specific I told her, I really only want a certain type of child, I’m burned out.

When I have talked about my burn out to agencies, they always understand, but still encourage me to stay open to all children.

And I think that is good advice.

Burn out is pretty common with foster families. You hear about families who take long breaks, and then foster again. I used to think this was really weird, but now I get it.

Fostering gets in your blood, its fun, rewarding, challenging. I like to do it. I loved foster adopting. But we have taken a long break, and now we'll approach it slowly again.

I’ve been blogging a lot recently about how I want to go about accepting a new placement, and hubby and I don’t necessarily want to foster anymore – just foster adopt. That makes it more difficult to find the right match for us as we won’t take children just because they need a home.

It also makes me a bit sad.

I wish I could take in lots of children, helping and loving them all, but

1. It’s just not me… and
2. It’s not good for K.

I want to take in a child or children who will likely stay with us and become part of our family.

My conversation with the competing agency was very promising. She told me that anything is possible, - it just takes time. The more open I am to all types of children, the faster I’ll get a child, the more narrow my parameters, the longer it will take.

That’s fair.

I can wait.

Our journey continues.