Comments on: Not Ready to Hear It http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-ready-to-hear-it News and information for those planning to adopt through foster care as well as firsthand accounts of those who have. Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:19:01 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Lindy http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-ready-to-hear-it/comment-page-1#comment-393 Lindy Thu, 09 Oct 2008 04:01:14 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/06/not-ready-to-hear-it#comment-393 If your husband is willing to follow your lead and realize that this child will present challenges within the family that he probably hasn't faced before, then it gives this little guy a chance to have a real family. You have to be together on this or it will hurt your relationship. These kids know how to triangulate....they've usually had lots of practice. If your husband is willing to follow your lead and realize that this child will present challenges within the family that he probably hasn’t faced before, then it gives this little guy a chance to have a real family. You have to be together on this or it will hurt your relationship. These kids know how to triangulate….they’ve usually had lots of practice.

]]> By: wendy m http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-ready-to-hear-it/comment-page-1#comment-392 wendy m Tue, 07 Oct 2008 21:12:40 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/06/not-ready-to-hear-it#comment-392 I'm thinking of approaching the issue with my hubby of adopting a 6-year-old boy out of foster care. I'm a Special Ed teacher in an elementary school, and he's a student in one of the 1st grade classes. He has some emotional issues that I feel able to deal with because of my Special Ed background, but my hubby doesn't have the same education as me. Do you think this is a bad idea? He's got some behavioral concerns related to his placement situation. He had a failed adoption in preschool and was sent back to foster care. He has been in 2 different foster families and seems to be finally relaxing and getting into the routine with this 1 foster mom. I feel bad to take him out of a stable environment as well; however, she is not intending to adopt him.<br /> <br /> Any thoughts from people who have already been through this? I’m thinking of approaching the issue with my hubby of adopting a 6-year-old boy out of foster care. I’m a Special Ed teacher in an elementary school, and he’s a student in one of the 1st grade classes. He has some emotional issues that I feel able to deal with because of my Special Ed background, but my hubby doesn’t have the same education as me. Do you think this is a bad idea? He’s got some behavioral concerns related to his placement situation. He had a failed adoption in preschool and was sent back to foster care. He has been in 2 different foster families and seems to be finally relaxing and getting into the routine with this 1 foster mom. I feel bad to take him out of a stable environment as well; however, she is not intending to adopt him.

Any thoughts from people who have already been through this?

]]> By: dhk42 http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-ready-to-hear-it/comment-page-1#comment-391 dhk42 Tue, 07 Oct 2008 17:22:02 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/06/not-ready-to-hear-it#comment-391 Yes I think my partner and I are not ready to hear it, though are son exhibits unusual emotional neediness. He is mature enough to swindle what he wants emotionally and even physically out of any adult within reach. We also believe we are giving generously as parents, however as of lately I know it will never be enough. It really sucks to wake up and know you have to face the neediest child in the world everyday - and I do think getting help is not only for the child but also a great help to parents. Yes I think my partner and I are not ready to hear it, though are son exhibits unusual emotional neediness. He is mature enough to swindle what he wants emotionally and even physically out of any adult within reach. We also believe we are giving generously as parents, however as of lately I know it will never be enough. It really sucks to wake up and know you have to face the neediest child in the world everyday – and I do think getting help is not only for the child but also a great help to parents.

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