Comments on: Investigating my name http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/investigating-my-name News and information for those planning to adopt through foster care as well as firsthand accounts of those who have. Tue, 09 Mar 2010 18:12:20 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Kelly http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/investigating-my-name/comment-page-1#comment-1542 Kelly Tue, 09 Oct 2007 03:22:42 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/07/investigating-my-name#comment-1542 I did receive an apology note from the teacher today saying they would be more cautious of these types of things in the future. I did receive an apology note from the teacher today saying they would be more cautious of these types of things in the future.

]]> By: fenyimom http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/investigating-my-name/comment-page-1#comment-1541 fenyimom Mon, 08 Oct 2007 12:41:24 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/07/investigating-my-name#comment-1541 What can you do? My 5 yr old had to write a letter to her grandparents, and the grandparents were expected to write a letter back to the class, telling the class about their family and their interactions with the grandchild. The only problem was that we have no grandparents. So my daughter spent a week having it ground into her about how wonderful grandparents are and what wonderful things they do with their grandchildren. She sent her letter to her aunt and uncle, but they didn't count because the lesson for that week was grandparents. What can you do? My 5 yr old had to write a letter to her grandparents, and the grandparents were expected to write a letter back to the class, telling the class about their family and their interactions with the grandchild. The only problem was that we have no grandparents. So my daughter spent a week having it ground into her about how wonderful grandparents are and what wonderful things they do with their grandchildren. She sent her letter to her aunt and uncle, but they didn’t count because the lesson for that week was grandparents.

]]> By: Julie http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/investigating-my-name/comment-page-1#comment-1540 Julie Mon, 08 Oct 2007 12:13:24 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/07/investigating-my-name#comment-1540 Kelly,<br /> <br /> The teacher likely has no frame of reference for "how" to change this assignment for children who are not living with the parents who named them. But it's just as likely that there are other children for which this is hard. I'm thinking of those raised by grandparents where the parents are out of the picture.<br /> <br /> <br /> If you wanted to give the teacher some "help" - you could just tell her that Hannah will answer #1 and #5 & 6 as well as the following questions -- What's so special about your name? (any answer here will do) and Do you know anyone else who has the same name as you? If yes, tell me about them.<br /> <br /> I know in LuLu's case she would talk about a Queen who shares her name and a woman who works at our local fabric store.<br /> <br /> If the teacher's intent is to make each child feel special about their name...these are better questions anyway - and allow those named after family members to answer the way she originally worded the question. Kelly,

The teacher likely has no frame of reference for “how” to change this assignment for children who are not living with the parents who named them. But it’s just as likely that there are other children for which this is hard. I’m thinking of those raised by grandparents where the parents are out of the picture.

If you wanted to give the teacher some “help” – you could just tell her that Hannah will answer #1 and #5 & 6 as well as the following questions — What’s so special about your name? (any answer here will do) and Do you know anyone else who has the same name as you? If yes, tell me about them.

I know in LuLu’s case she would talk about a Queen who shares her name and a woman who works at our local fabric store.

If the teacher’s intent is to make each child feel special about their name…these are better questions anyway – and allow those named after family members to answer the way she originally worded the question.

]]> By: NCOZADD@aol.com http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/investigating-my-name/comment-page-1#comment-1539 NCOZADD@aol.com Mon, 08 Oct 2007 04:25:55 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/07/investigating-my-name#comment-1539 This assigment is about as sensitive as the Family Tree. Let us know if the note illicits any response, and how the parent/teacher conference goes! This assigment is about as sensitive as the Family Tree. Let us know if the note illicits any response, and how the parent/teacher conference goes!

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