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Hello everyone! My name is Renee Eaton and I am one of your brand new bloggers. I am so excited to be here at AdoptionBlogs.com blogging about the amazing journey of foster-adoption. My husband and I have been blessed with two beautiful boys, both of whom we found in the foster care system. Our first son, T, was eleven when we first met him and had been waiting nearly ten years for a family to commit to him. He is now twelve and his adoption was finalized eight months ago. Our second son, Z, is nine and has been in our home for two and a half months at this point. We should be going to court to legally adopt him in May or June of this year. We have also been blessed to recently discover that we are pregnant and have a due date of October 2, 2009.
As adoptive parents we have found that we are often faced with many questions that don’t seem to make much sense to us. The questions either fall into the category of things that are entirely inappropriate for a stranger to ask or that are senseless for anyone to ask. If you are beginning your journey into foster-adoption, these are the questions you will hear. If you’ve already chosen to immerse yourself into loving and parenting these incredible children, you’ve heard them all. If you have any you’d like to share, feel free to comment away! As part of my introduction to you all, I thought I would share my answers to what I consider to be my top ten most often asked intrusive questions in no particular order. Over the next couple of weeks I will blog on some of the most ridiculous things that we have heard in our journey. Hopefully this series will give you a chance to get to know my family’s situation and where I am coming from when I blog. I also hope it will be an opportunity for you to get some of your own intrusive questions answered. (We all have these questions but some of us are polite enough not to ask them of complete strangers!) As an aside, I tend to try to add a little humor, albeit sometimes sarcastic, because adoption can be hard and the answers to these question can be hard. We’ve learned to laugh a bit along the way and I’d love to share some of that with you. If you’ve asked these inappropriate questions to complete strangers, join the club. I know I asked some of these myself before I understood the situation at hand. I definitely thought most of these questions prior to adopting so don’t feel bad. Whatever it is that has brought you here to this blog, I hope that you find the information you are looking for and get the support you need. I most certainly look forward to sharing with all of you and becoming a part of the AdoptionBlogs.com family!
So glad to have a new GREAT blogger! YAY!!!!
You can check out our adoption journey on http://www.stubbornfishtales.com
Our first foster son moves in tomorrow!
Renee
One more question (please?). When does the child find out that someone is inquiring about them?
Carol
Hello Renee, I am new to the group also. We are planning to adopting two boys same ages as your two, nine and eleven. They came into care the end of June and we have fostered them since August. I have lots of questions and some worries but will wait a while so people can get to know me better before I get to that part.
Our families journey started 3 plus years ago. The Judge finally had enough and we are SCPT and have been told this is going to take a long time to terminate birthmom’s rights. birthdad stepped out 1-1/2 years ago. We signed a commitment form a few days ago to adopt these two adorable sibling. They are a handful but we love them. Our children are young but we feel they don’t remember her as their birthmom even if they have been visiting birthmom weekly (supervised). Since we are heading toward adoption does anyone have ways or idea’s I can ask information from birth mom before rights are terminated. What information did your wish you had now about birth family before the rights were terminated?
how will you sleep at night? IT’S WRONG! what the hell are you thinking trying to seperate babies from their mother? That is just disgusting when you think about what you’re trying to get away with.it is a criminal act to kidnap children. if you do get away with it you won’t be hard to figure out and you will pay for it. Let me ask you a question, do you really think these people won’t find you and hate you for what you’ve done?
I just joined here as well hoping to find some folks who can help me to adopt a foster girl who`s 8. In my area adoption is as foreign as good paying jobs lol there are a lot of communities here but all artsy types, no adoption get togethers or anything. What should I do to start? She is in another state, but in about a year we do plan on moving to that state and running a horse farm. What should my first step be? I found her on adoptudkids.org
-Leila & James in northern Wisconsin-
Hi Renee
Nice to meet you. I was so glad to read that you have had experience in Foster to Adopt. My husband and I have raised six children, we are middle aged and healthy and we just started our Foster Classes. Eight months ago I found a little 13 year old girl with big blue eyes on the internet that has been in the foster care system. Since then I have thought about adopting her. So…here we are going to classes for Foster Care (just finished the second class), filled out bunches of paperwork, criminal background checks, next week; fingerprints and the upcoming homestudy. But anyway, I am living in Kentucky now and I was wondering what is the first step that happens after your homestudy gets done? Will they arrange for us to visit her, or her visit us (with our workers approval of course), or ???? I am so excited not just about adopting her, but about fostering. When I started looking in to it, I just couldn’t believe how many foster children there were in Kentucky alone. Any advise, steps, etc., would be very helpful from anyone. Thanks! Can’t wait to hear of your final court date for your new son.
Carol
do you know why there are SO many children in foster care? “Important” people are making money when parental rights are terminated and children are adopted. It’s not because so many children are abused and neglected it is because there is an actual business of kidnapping and selling children right here in the united states. do the research!