MIL passed away yesterday, and K was with us and part of the process.

Loss and grief can be difficult for all of us, and especially for those who've had losses early in life.I worried that having such a loss in her life might send her for a tail spin, but she’s been handling it the best out of all of us.


First, less than two weeks ago, when MIL went into the hospital, it was K who was with me in the car following the ambulance.

Together we were ambulance chasing, and not at all worried as MIL was just in back pain and couldn’t sit in my car for her doctors appointment – so I called the ambulance. K was so excited to watch Grandma come out of the ambulance and was in awe of the paramedics who were helping.

MIL was scheduled for back surgery and K and I went to the hospital to visit twice a day for three days – then the snow storm hit. (One of many in Colorado this winter). We couldn’t make it in, but we called and talked to Grandma and everything was fine.

The next day, Hubby went to visit very early in the morning, and there was clearly a change.

A stroke perhaps. Pneumonia for sure. She already had diabetes and kidney failure, so any small complication wouldn’t be small.

K saw her, unable to move, and talked to her, asking her to sleep so she could get better soon.

K wasn’t disturbed at all, but would hold her hand and try to comfort.

Then it continued to go downhill. Making the decision to move Grandma to hospice was the hardest decision of Hubby’s life. The three of us, K, Hubby and I camped out at hospice, taking small breaks, and basically watching her die.

I’d take K for walks around the facility, and we saw a beautiful painted angel on the wall. I told K that grandma was going to live with the angels now, and K nodded – all so understanding and grown up at three.

When we got back to the room K ran up to grandma, held her hand and said .....

“The angels are waiting grandma – go live with the angels now”


A few days later MIL passed, and K went up to say goodbye, touched her cold hand, turned to me:

...."Grandma’s gone with the angels mom. She’s living with them now."


We miss you grandma.