Comments on: Child waiting for a decision http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/child-waiting-for-a-decision News and information for those planning to adopt through foster care as well as firsthand accounts of those who have. Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:19:01 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: bjc http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/child-waiting-for-a-decision/comment-page-1#comment-853 bjc Thu, 10 Jan 2008 21:47:50 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/29/child-waiting-for-a-decision#comment-853 I have had my foster son with me since he was 2 months old and now he is almost three. The case shows no signs of ending. It is killing me. <br /> I never would have signed up for foster care if I knew it would be like this. Of course, I will do whatever I have to do for my little boy. <br /> He is my race and we even kind of look alike, but there are 3 older siblings. Also the parents have completed many of the classes, etc that they must complete but still lack the good judgement of good parents. It is so scary and confusing for me.<br /> Meanwhile, I feel like the case worker is totally unsympathetic to my son's feelings or mine. <br /> How is the system supposed to continue to get good foster homes if our needs and concerns are ignored and undermined?<br /> *Beth* I have had my foster son with me since he was 2 months old and now he is almost three. The case shows no signs of ending. It is killing me.
I never would have signed up for foster care if I knew it would be like this. Of course, I will do whatever I have to do for my little boy.
He is my race and we even kind of look alike, but there are 3 older siblings. Also the parents have completed many of the classes, etc that they must complete but still lack the good judgement of good parents. It is so scary and confusing for me.
Meanwhile, I feel like the case worker is totally unsympathetic to my son’s feelings or mine.
How is the system supposed to continue to get good foster homes if our needs and concerns are ignored and undermined?
*Beth*

]]> By: NCOZADD@aol.com http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/child-waiting-for-a-decision/comment-page-1#comment-852 NCOZADD@aol.com Tue, 01 Jan 2008 17:17:45 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/29/child-waiting-for-a-decision#comment-852 We were almost not allowed to adopt our two eldest children, but Social Services did not come right out and day it was because of our race. I am Caucasian, hubby is Caucasian/ Native American. However, the kids are Caucasian/Chicano (or Hispanic, Mexican-American, etc). The social worker would say that the kids need to be with a family that "best met their needs".... We were almost not allowed to adopt our two eldest children, but Social Services did not come right out and day it was because of our race. I am Caucasian, hubby is Caucasian/ Native American. However, the kids are Caucasian/Chicano (or Hispanic, Mexican-American, etc). The social worker would say that the kids need to be with a family that “best met their needs”….

]]> By: fatcat http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/child-waiting-for-a-decision/comment-page-1#comment-851 fatcat Tue, 01 Jan 2008 16:03:59 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/29/child-waiting-for-a-decision#comment-851 As they told us again and again in our foster care classes "moves hurt kids". Why would they move him? Would you like to be moved from your family to a group who looks more similar to you? I don't look anything like anyone in my biological family except one cousin, kind of. As they told us again and again in our
foster care classes “moves hurt kids”.

Why would they move him?

Would you like to be moved from your family to a group who looks more similar to
you? I don’t look anything like anyone in my
biological family except one cousin,
kind of.

]]> By: Jenna Hatfield http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/child-waiting-for-a-decision/comment-page-1#comment-850 Jenna Hatfield Mon, 31 Dec 2007 16:14:48 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/29/child-waiting-for-a-decision#comment-850 Augh. That's awful. Augh. That’s awful.

]]> By: Kelly http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/child-waiting-for-a-decision/comment-page-1#comment-849 Kelly Sun, 30 Dec 2007 19:39:01 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/29/child-waiting-for-a-decision#comment-849 Oh Julia. I feel for you. When Mackenzie came to us there was a chance that she was American Indian and it terrified us! Oh Julia. I feel for you. When Mackenzie came to us there was a chance that she was American Indian and it terrified us!

]]> By: Julia Fuller http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/child-waiting-for-a-decision/comment-page-1#comment-848 Julia Fuller Sun, 30 Dec 2007 19:36:53 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/29/child-waiting-for-a-decision#comment-848 I am facing the same problem right now because my child is 1/4 American Indian. She has been with me for 1/2 of her life and I have contact with most of her birth family. I am facing the same problem right now because my child is 1/4 American Indian. She has been with me for 1/2 of her life and I have contact with most of her birth family.

]]> By: Chromesthesia http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/child-waiting-for-a-decision/comment-page-1#comment-847 Chromesthesia Sun, 30 Dec 2007 14:04:27 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/29/child-waiting-for-a-decision#comment-847 Why does the system keep doing that? If a child has been with a foster family for several years of their life, if they want to adopt him, they should be the first ones to be considered! It makes sense to me! Why does the system keep doing that?
If a child has been with a foster family for several years of their life, if they want to adopt him, they should be the first ones to be considered! It makes sense to me!

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