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05/07/08

Baby Found in Dumpster

Posted by : Kelly in Foster Adoption Blog at 07:26 pm , 387 words, 1889 views  
Categories: In the News!


Hot on the heels of the horrible stories out of Wisconsin, I heard a story on the news tonight about a brand new baby found in a dumpster in St. Louis, Missouri.

It seems that a mother dumped her brand new, as in only hours old, into a dumpster. A woman who is believed to be the mother of the baby boy has been found.

The baby was found purely by the grace of God. A man was throwing some lawn clippings into the dumpster when he heard a sound, not knowing that it was a baby. He dug through the dumpster and found the baby wrapped in a towel, cold, but alive. The man, Wesley Falker, said that the baby wrapped his little hand around his finger. The baby was taken to a local hospital and is healthy.

Stories like this make me so incredibly angry. Missouri has a “Safe Haven” law that allows a mother to relinquish her child without fear of conviction. The baby is placed in foster care while the legal process is done, but the parents are not charged with abandonment. It allows the baby to be placed in a safe home.

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I understand young women being afraid and hiding a pregnancy. There are parents, or fathers, who would not handle the news of a pregnancy well, but there is no reason for a child to be disposed of as trash. If a mother truly feels that she is unable to make an adoption plan why not take advantage of the Safe Haven law and allow the child to live? Now the mother faces criminal charges, which would not have happened if she had relinquished the baby.

In most safe haven cases, the mother is not even required to give her name, medical history or any other information. She only has to state that she is the baby’s mother and that she is voluntarily relinquishing the child. Missouri’s laws are extremely liberal. It allows the mother to relinquish up until the child is a year old. Most states only allow relinquishing a child up until the age of two weeks or a month.

What can make a woman so desperate that she feels the only option is to throw a child in the trash? It absolutely baffles me.

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Comment from: Julia Fuller [Member] Email · http://special-needs.adoptionblogs.com/
God is good. Isn't it awesome that he led this man to this baby in time and made him look through a dumpster.
PermalinkPermalink 05/07/08 @ 20:31
Comment from: hannah_rae [Member]
Safe Haven laws are wonderful, but only if people know about them. I hope that this mother was acting in ignorance and not out of stupid, idiotic, evilness.

It's stories like this that make my conversations with God more desperate. I sometimes have a hard time understanding why a loving, just God would give a baby to a woman who would throw it in the trash and not give one to someone like me, who desperately wants one and can give it a loving home.

I've got a particularly bad case of the baby blues right now, so that makes it worse.

God protect that little one...and all the others who's mothers have a hard choice to make.
PermalinkPermalink 05/07/08 @ 21:09
Comment from: Jenna Hatfield [Member] Email · http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/
The above comment rings true. A good friend of ours was first on the scene to a baby found in a dumpster about five/six years ago. (Remember, we're a fire/medic family.) The scene took place on a well-to-do college campus in Ohio. The mother, a student, didn't know about Ohio's Safe Haven law.

It doesn't excuse the action. It's still deplorable to do something like that to a newborn baby (or, any child). And not knowing the law is never an excuse for breaking the law. But these things aren't being promoted at all. I had NO idea anything existed until months after I placed when my then-boyfriend-now-husband went to training on the topic.

If people within the adoption world don't know about it, how are scared girls in crisis mode supposed to know?

(Again, not excusing action. Just calling for changes.)
PermalinkPermalink 05/08/08 @ 05:55
Comment from: KatjaMichelle [Member] Email
I did a paper for my policy class on safe haven laws a few quarters ago. According to the research on the laws those who utilize SH are NOT the women likely to abandon their children in unsafe situations. A vast majority of women who utilize SH would have either parented or gone through traditional channels to place their baby for adoption had safe haven not been available to them. of the women interviewed who'd abandoned their babies (in dumpsters and the like) which was obviously a small sample as its hard to locate these women safe haven did not or would not have deterred them because it did not address the reasons for their actions. This is one of those issues that really needs to be dealt with at a deeper level prior to a pregnancy occurring.
PermalinkPermalink 05/08/08 @ 08:19
Comment from: Kelly [Member] Email · http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com
Katja can you expand some more on this? I am very curious as to what the women's circumstances were that would have prevented them from relinquishing a child through Safe Haven.

What do we do to get Safe Haven information out there? I have seen billboards, newscasts, commercials and other things promoting this. I want women to know this is an option so a child never has to go through this or die as a result. Every child deserves a shot at life.
PermalinkPermalink 05/08/08 @ 08:41
Comment from: KatjaMichelle [Member] Email
Well the paper I did was a few quarters ago so I'll try to expand but I'm not sure I fully remember and to be honest I don't have time to find that paper right now. I recall some were in a dissociative state during and after childbirth, some were in a state of panic, some were in genuine fear (not just worried but truly terrified) I know one of the sources I used was from the evan b donaldson institute at some point when this quarter is not kicking my butt I'll see if i canfind my resource list
PermalinkPermalink 05/08/08 @ 20:05
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