Comments on: After effects of abuse allegations http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/after-effects-of-abuse-allegations News and information for those planning to adopt through foster care as well as firsthand accounts of those who have. Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:19:01 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: xxsurroundedbyxy http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/after-effects-of-abuse-allegations/comment-page-1#comment-1921 xxsurroundedbyxy Tue, 26 Feb 2008 18:21:38 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/02/25/after-effects-of-abuse-allegations#comment-1921 Kelly~<br /> Thank you so much for telling more of your story and clarifying things for me. I have not had those experiences nor have the people I know that were investigated. But like everything else in fostering, I guess each place/state is different. I certainly don't want anyone considering fostering to be scared away but they need to know the possibilities I suppose. Thank you MamaS for trying to get the word out.<br /> <br /> Kim Kelly~
Thank you so much for telling more of your story and clarifying things for me. I have not had those experiences nor have the people I know that were investigated. But like everything else in fostering, I guess each place/state is different. I certainly don’t want anyone considering fostering to be scared away but they need to know the possibilities I suppose. Thank you MamaS for trying to get the word out.

Kim

]]> By: MamaS http://fost-adopt.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/after-effects-of-abuse-allegations/comment-page-1#comment-1920 MamaS Tue, 26 Feb 2008 16:45:56 +0000 http://foster-adopt.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/02/25/after-effects-of-abuse-allegations#comment-1920 Thank you Kelly.<br /> It is much the same here in Georgia. I saw two good foster/adopt homes torn apart when preteen foster children claimed "abuse" and all children were pulled from the home during the DCS investigations. When the dust settled the preteens were moved (which is what they wanted) but the baby boys who WERE to be adopted by their foster families were not returned. Instead they were given for adoption to the families where they had been placed during the investigation. One family moved to another state and adopted. The other was eventually able to adopt but it was SIX YEARS before they got an adoption placement from DCS.<br /> As a school counselor for 30 years I probably made over 500 referrals. I was a mandated reporter and if any child who came to me and alleged any abuse I HAD TO report it. I hope what I did helped children. But I KNOW that in at least ten cases the allegation was a flat lie (out of spite or anger) and by the time it was proved untrue marriages had disrupted, families were divided and careers were damaged. I have been told "1 out of 50" isnn't bad, but it WAS bad for them. <br /> I would NEVER say "Don't report". Any allegation of abuse MUST BE reported. But I do urge everyone to think about the families -- even where there is guilt, there are some innocent parties who are going to be hurt. Thank you Kelly.
It is much the same here in Georgia. I saw two good foster/adopt homes torn apart when preteen foster children claimed “abuse” and all children were pulled from the home during the DCS investigations. When the dust settled the preteens were moved (which is what they wanted) but the baby boys who WERE to be adopted by their foster families were not returned. Instead they were given for adoption to the families where they had been placed during the investigation. One family moved to another state and adopted. The other was eventually able to adopt but it was SIX YEARS before they got an adoption placement from DCS.
As a school counselor for 30 years I probably made over 500 referrals. I was a mandated reporter and if any child who came to me and alleged any abuse I HAD TO report it. I hope what I did helped children. But I KNOW that in at least ten cases the allegation was a flat lie (out of spite or anger) and by the time it was proved untrue marriages had disrupted, families were divided and careers were damaged. I have been told “1 out of 50″ isnn’t bad, but it WAS bad for them.
I would NEVER say “Don’t report”. Any allegation of abuse MUST BE reported. But I do urge everyone to think about the families — even where there is guilt, there are some innocent parties who are going to be hurt.

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