Comments on: Adoption Behavioral Issues

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 02:44:38 +0000

Erin- It is sometimes hard for our kids to have a relationship with their bio family as much as we'd like to keep it open for them. It triggers major PTSD for them. I'd hold off for now and communicate through letters and keep tabs on where people are in case he wants the contact later. Right now he can't handle it.

Ernest- Thanks for the link, it falls in line with something else I wanted to blog about, so look for more on the topic.

Hannah - Good luck with your placement. It is so good that you have realistic visions of what things will be like.

By: hannah_rae

hannah_rae — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 02:12:17 +0000

Kelly,
I totally sympathize. My husband and I are staff at a group home for emotionally disturbed kids, and we are getting our first foster child from this group home. We’ve know her since she was 8 (now 11) and know the worst she can do, which usually leads to multiple restraints etc…but so far so good with us. I am hoping that a stable home environment will allow for her to express her anger in more appropriate ways. We just had a fantastic visit today. YAY!

By: ernest

ernest — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 19:31:02 +0000

Glad to read that you are making great strides with Hannah. Hope that Sammy’s situation would improve. Was reading an article on CNN this morning and it also shows the struggles of a family who adopted a kid with violent tendencies. At least now it is making the headlines.
http://www.cnn.com/2008/US/04/11/boudreau.campus.rage/index.html

By: erin_1712

erin_1712 — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 19:08:39 +0000

Our son saw an old babysitter and acted up for two days. He turned into a violent monster. We talked to him and reepeatedly told him he would be staying with us and he eventually calmed down. When the social worker heard this she told us visits with his old family were not going to happen for a long time. I think it has something to do with the open investigation of abuse she has and the fact that he gets very scared when you mention his old family.

But I would love for him to know his bio family when they get all of their issues sorted out. I agree that it is very important that children know their bio families and have contact with them.