Comments on: Adopting sibling groups

By: llambros

llambros — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 01:45:36 +0000

It may not be a popular theory but it has definately been true in my experience. My latest placement was a prime example of an older sibling who became the abuser instead of the parents. Asking DSS to separate them was not only dificult but necessary for the safety of the younger kids. DSS, was certainly not responsive or very supportive but the younger siblings are now doing so much better. The finally have a safe place, free of physical abuse for the first time in their lives. Maybe now they can heal more than just the bruises.

By: rsm2004

rsm2004 — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 22:59:28 +0000

Very helpful. Until recently I kept thinking how wonderful it would be to adopt a sib-group….huhmm!Our son has 4 siblings in variuos stages of fostering and guardianships.
I wonder what sort of questions you ought to ask of their social workers in order to learn the true dynamics between a sib-group!
Impressive out-of-the-box stuff!

By: AdoptionBlogs Editor

AdoptionBlogs Editor — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 02:16:44 +0000

I really don’t think these are issues that a lot of people think of. Thank you so much for shedding light on them for us!

By: Mary Grace

Mary Grace — Sat, 16 Jun 2007 22:11:50 +0000

Thanks for posting this. We are awaiting placement and have said we’re open to siblings for the *opposite* reasons you mention. Never thought of that perspective. Thanks so much for being open.

By: soblessed

soblessed — Fri, 15 Jun 2007 21:39:21 +0000

Very interesting, Kelly. And a topic I hadn’t thought about. Thanks….

By: BEACHLADY

BEACHLADY — Fri, 15 Jun 2007 21:17:44 +0000

I agree.

I think our daughter is doing much better now that she is not with her sister.