Happy Adoption Day!

November 24th, 2012

fab 5 2012On November 17, we celebrated National Adoption Day.  In our home, it's the day in which we celebrate the adoption of all 5 of our children.  Some years it's a big party, this year, it was a little toned down.  It was a busy week in our household and I was on my second week of being pretty darn sick.  The kids did not care. For us, Adoption Day is also about awareness.  We celebrated through the week as I went to both The Captain's and Tinker's classes to share a book and a little chat about adoption.  This year's book was, I Wished for You.  This is a heartwarming story about Barley Bear who looks a little different from his… [more]

Raising a Traumatized Child

November 14th, 2011

bookEighteen years ago, when I went to my first adoption seminar, so many things came to mind: meeting "my" child for the first time, holding him or her in my arms, providing a safe home, giving all the love I had to heal any wounds the child might have. What I never considered was how the adoption of a traumatized child would affect me. For years I had imagined my prince carrying me off into an idyllic world where I would bear children perfect and happy. But then, at 37, why was I still single? Ah, because I was too overweight or too weird or too ugly. As it turns out, no. When I took the hand of my little 3-year-old Abel for the first… [more]

Black

May 29th, 2011
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1152270_office_4Orange Shoe Guy (OSG) and I wrote a book. It is a children's book and (though I am biased) I have to admit, it is good. OSG is in the unique position of being an African-American child in a Caucasian family and society. This does not bother him but brings a lot of questions. Everyone wants to know his story. We do not tell it all of the time. We let him chose. He chose to write this children's book. He chose to answer people's questions in this venue. I love it. The book is called "Black." It is written from his prospective, which is rare amongst children's books. There are very few written from a boy's perspective and dealing with adoption the… [more]

Dave Pelzer

October 29th, 2008
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Categories: Books

I cannot believe in the amount of time I have been blogging about foster care and adoption that I have not written about Dave Pelzer. If his name is not familiar to you, then his books probably are. He is the author of bestsellers “A Child Called It” and “The Lost Boy" along with four other titles. I had the privilege to hear Mr. Pelzer speak at the International Foster Care Organisation (no, that’s not spelled wrong) conference a few years ago. Initially he was supposed to speak the youth attending the conference, but attendance was lower than anticipated so we were all allowed to attend his speech. What I heard from him was amazing. This was a man who suffered horrific… [more]

Book Review – A Theory of Relativity

August 7th, 2008
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Categories: Books

A Theory of Relativity by Jacquelyn Mitchard is an adoption book in a different way. First of all is that it is a work of fiction, but based on a true story. The plot line of the book is that a couple dies in a car accident and leave behind a little girl. A will had been written naming the baby’s uncle (Gordon) as the guardian of the baby (Keefer). After the death another lawyer comes forward and says that the baby’s parents were changing the will but that it had not been finalized. Thus begins the custody battle. The key point of argument is the mother of Keefer and Gordon were both adopted, and therefore Gordon is not blood related to… [more]

Crazy Book Titles

July 26th, 2008
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Categories: Books

One night, while going through the library, the title of a book caught my attention. “What Looks Like Crazy on an Ordinary Day.” The first thought that came to mind was about friend, and former blogger, Julie. I’ve known Julie for about four years now, and what would like crazy to most people is an ordinary day for Julie. Her issues with LuLu are just plain out there. I admire her as a mom and as a person. I’ve spent time with LuLu and I know how tiring parenting her can be. Most of us don’t deal with the same type of “crazy” that Julie does, but our lives probably look pretty crazy to most of the people on the outside… [more]

Book Review – The Four Agreements

May 20th, 2008
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Categories: Books

I have blogged, fairly openly, about the fact that I was physically, emotionally and sexually abused. I am working on these issues and am exploring having EMDR done to help with some of my anxieties. While talking with my counselor, she recommended the book, "The Four Agreements" by don Miguel Ruiz. I got it in an audio version and have been listening to it on my MP3 player when I am walking. It is great uninterrupted time when I don’t have to think about anything else and I can simply concentrate. It has been incredibly enlightening both for myself, but into the minds of our kids. It has made me rethink how their early trauma has shaped who they are. One of the things… [more]

Book Review – Adoption Parenting

May 12th, 2008
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Categories: Books

While doing all the paperwork for Hannah’s adoption there was a list of books and other things we could do to earn “credit” for pre-adoption education. On the list was a book that I was a contributing author to. Honestly, I had forgotten about writing for it since it was an easy topic for me to write on, and required very little effort on my part, although I did find it amusing that I could get credit for reading a book that I contributed to. The book is, “Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox, Building Connections” by EMK Press. It is a fantastic book, and I’m not just saying that because I contributed to it. It is a great book because it is written by… [more]

Adopted Teens Only Book Review

April 8th, 2008
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Categories: Books

I received a copy of Adopted Teens Only: A Survival Guide to Adolescence from the publisher. For the most part I really like this book. It is written as a book for teens to help them understand adoption issues and the feelings they have as they struggle for independence and identity. Here’s a little bit about the author, Danea Gorbett. She’s an adult adoptee who met her birth father when she was a teenager. It was a tenuous relationship. She became a psychologist and a special needs teacher so she could work with teens who had issues similar to the issues she had as a teen. In my opinion, the first chapter “Am I Normal?” is the best part of the… [more]

Books for your foster child

February 13th, 2008
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Categories: Books

I love to read and my kids have developed that passion as well. You will often find both of them with books in their hands. Reading with your kids is always a good thing, especially if this is not something that your child is used to. The books listed below can give some great messages to your kids, along with having that special one on one time that kids love to have with their parents. Corduroy by Don Freeman I love this book as it is, but it is such a wonderful story that our kids can relate to. Corduroy is a stuffed bear in a store, but he is missing a button so no one wants to buy him. He wanders… [more]