Mama’s Day

May 17th, 2012
Categories: Holidays, Parenting

fab fiveI am not the sleep-in kind of person, so in 16 Mother's Days, I've never had a breakfast in bed.  However, I've heard of lots that my friends have had and have to say, I don't think I would want those breakfasts anyway.  Mother's Day has been a learning process around here.  My first Mother's Day, I had a beautiful 7 month old.  Good thing I had her, because her daddy did not think he needed to get me anything.  I'm not his mother, after all!  (Grrr).  His mother does live nearby so, we spend our Mother's Days with her and -- back then -- his sister, Mom to two. My second and third Mother's Days must have been uneventful because I… [more]

The Captain, Soaring

January 5th, 2012

DSCN4750Well, our second Christmas season with "the Littles" is officially over.  It was a very good year. Last year, we had to limit our visitors and our visits; our traumatized little ones just couldn't tolerate strangers or too many new people in our home.  The Captain, now 4, had the hardest time.  Although he was not yet 3 when he came here, we were his 6th move.  The closest thing he had to an attachment was his birth-mother whom he had seen once a week for an hour most of his life.  New people scared him.  Visitors scared him.  A change in routine - frightening. It's a whole new world this year.  We tested the kids out by taking them to our in-laws for… [more]

Thirteen, Already?

May 23rd, 2011
Posted By: on Foster Adoption

781738_black_and_whiteTomorrow marks a wonderful occasion and one worthy of the attention given to it in this blog. Orange Shoe Guy (OSG) turns thirteen. It doesn't seem possible. It seems like just yesterday, he ran across that airport terminal and into my heart forever. He came to our family- that day eleven years ago. He was a foster child from a different state (hence the airport reference) and he came to us in a foster to adoption placement. What an intense day that was. He had been flown with a caseworker to a local airport. She then came out to the house and helped us settle him. Whew! I was very young and very nervous. He, on the other hand, did great. He loved his… [more]

Second Easter

April 25th, 2011

It was our second Easeggter with the "Littles." Yesterday as I sat and enjoyed Easter dinner at my Mother-in-Laws, I was struck by how far we have all come in a year. Last year, the introduction of new people at our Easter celebration sent the Littles into a tizzy. Two were withdrawn, sad-faced, clingy. The other acted out by throwing tantrums, getting into mischief and taunting her siblings. It was a tough day on all of us. Everything and everyone was new to them then. The only one of our traditions that seemed familiar to them was our post-dinner cascarones fight. It may not have been so much that they'd done it before but that the… [more]

Merry Christmas…for who?

December 20th, 2010
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1245801_merry_christmas_2I called me son's teacher a couple nights ago. When she answered I started with usual question of, "Hello, how are you?" Long pause..."Ummm, fine" she unsteadily replied. "Would my son be the reason you are 'Ummm, fine?" "Well, lets just say he is 1/29th of the problem. Whoever penned the song "It's the Most Wonderful Time of Year" was obviously not a teacher," she jokingly reported. She went on to say the whole class was stressed although, yes, my son was struggling more than others. I was not at all surprised by her comment. Holidays are hard on him. They always have been. He is the type of child who needs a lot of structure. He thrives on routine and likewise, does not perform well… [more]

Mother’s Day

May 4th, 2008
Posted By: on Foster Adoption
Categories: Holidays

Mother’s Day is a week from today. For most of us it will not be a good day. For those who don’t have children yet, it’s a reminder of that fact. For those of us with difficult children, it can be an awful day. This will be my tenth Mother’s Day as Sammy’s mother and my second as Hannah’s mother. I was fortunate enough to have two Mother’s Days with Kory and one with Mackenzie. I have wonderful memories of the first one with Kory. He was so excited to have a mom and worked very hard to make the day great. He and Sammy each had $10 to spend on a gift for me. They pooled… [more]

The Holidays Without Your Child

March 21st, 2008
Posted By: on Foster Adoption

As you know, Sunday is Easter. Sammy will not be home for Easter. With his new placement he has a restriction of at least 30 days before he is allowed to leave the grounds of where he is at. We may not even pick him up and go to lunch. Instead we are traveling to visit him tomorrow after Hannah does an Easter egg hunt. His placement is over 90 minutes away, so it is not a quick or easy trip for a visit. Sammy has spent a couple of holidays away from home, but they have not really been “major” holidays. There were a couple of Thanksgivings where he was in juvenile detention, and a Christmas that he spent in his first… [more]

No home for the holidays

December 20th, 2007
Posted By: on Foster Adoption
Categories: Holidays

This will be my last post until after Christmas, I have so many things going, so I am going to say Merry Christmas to all my readers. I also want to say I am blessed to have a family that I will be willingly spending Christmas with this year. Not everyone is this blessed. As I was driving to have lunch with a friend today, I heard a song that I forgot about. It’s called “Christmas Carol” and it’s by Skip Ewing. He is a fairly little known country music artist, but his song is one that we an all relate to. I remember the years when I did not have children and all I wanted for Christmas was to have a child… [more]

Getting through the holidays

December 18th, 2007
Posted By: on Foster Adoption
Categories: Holidays

With less than a week to go to until Christmas, the days are more and more hectic. This will take a toll on you and your children, so how do you make it through with as few meltdowns as possible and your sanity intact? Schedule down time – Because of strained relationships, to put it mildly, we do not do thing with my family. Over the years this has become an incredible blessing in our lives. Back when this relationship included us, all we did was run, and we never enjoyed the holidays. We went to my parents house Christmas Eve afternoon, to my Dad’s parents for Christmas Eve dinner, then off to church for the kids Christmas program. We usually arrived… [more]

Holiday traditions

December 18th, 2007
Posted By: on Foster Adoption
Categories: Holidays

All of us have holiday traditions of some sort. Some are quite obvious, and others are very subtle. These traditions can help your foster or adopted child feel like part of your family. While Hannah and I put up the Christmas decorations we talked about some of the traditions, and we talked about some others with my Mother-in-Law when she was here last weekend. I’ll explain some of our traditions, and please feel free to tell us about yours. Ornaments – Each year I buy a new Christmas ornament for each of my kids (yes, even Kory and Mackenzie). They go on my tree every year, and when the kids are old enough to leave and start their own homes with their own trees, the ornaments will… [more]