Beautiful Boys – A Love Thursday Post

September 5th, 2013
Categories: Love Thursday

the boysIt's "Love Thursday." ¬†Here are my beautiful boys! This was their first day of school this year. The Captain was loaded up and ready to go early. The Blitz would not even look at the camera. I long ago gave up the dream of being the mother of boys. Both of our first two adoptions were "supposed" to be boys but they turned out to be girls. We were thrilled of course, not actually caring about gender. But as the girls grew and that "baby" phase of life slipped further away, I closed that chapter. Fast forward a dozen years and we made a decision to foster. By then we were so entrenched in "daughter land" that it didn't even occur to us… [more]

Loving them Enough

January 24th, 2013

DSCN7267Yesterday I was talking to my support partner about our little ones. ¬†He, per usual, listened attentively and then repeated something I had said, asking me to listen to my own words. ¬†"Tell me what you hear," he said: "I am afraid that I cannot love them enough to fix what is broken in them." Hmmm. ¬†I said, ¬†"Well, it's not true that they are broken. They don't need "fixed." ¬†They have been terribly hurt, for certain. ¬†They have suffered and some of what has happened to them cannot be undone. ¬†I can support them and love them and advocate for them. But by the same token, these challenges are what make us who we are, what make us strong, what make us unique." "That's… [more]

The Fab Five – A Love Thursday Post

November 29th, 2012

fab 5 2012Well here they are. ¬†Aren't they glorious? I call them the Fab Five, Team Tischler, The Triple Threat and Double Trouble, the Love Bunch and each and every one of them "sweetie." ¬†Yes, I'm a softie. I'm the parent who says, "Oh, she didn't mean it," or "He just didn't understand [that you didn't want him to dismantle the train track you spent 5 hours assembling, etc.]. ¬†I'm the one who has to be physically restrained if someone criticizes one of my kids. ¬†Yes, I'm that Mom. ¬†I'm the mom who cries in every ARD meeting, who cries at dance recitals, and who cheers embarrassingly loud at softball games. ¬†I'm the mom who would let all 5 of my kids… [more]

Grandparents – A Love Thursday Post

October 11th, 2012
Categories: Love Thursday

One of the most important "success factors" in our adoption journey(s) has been the 5 grandparents our kids have been blessed with. ¬†Allow me to introduce the cast of characters: Grandma, Papa and MamawMamaw and Papa (middle and right) are my parents. ¬†Papa is my adoptive father (step-parent adoption) who raised me from the age of 11 months. ¬†I think this gave both my parents added insight into one's ability to love a child "not of their loins." ¬†As well, my Mom has always been the kind of person who offers to hold crying babies in restaurants and airplanes; maybe that goes back to her years as a nursery nurse. ¬†But wait . . . there's more. Gram and Grandpa are Dear Hubby's step-mom… [more]

The Test – A Love Thursday Post

July 26th, 2012
Categories: Love Thursday

DSCN5460I love these crazy monkeys.¬† And sometimes, they really rise to the occasion. On Tuesday, we started out on yet another road trip, this time to Sunshine's National Pony Softball tournament.¬† These three were along for the ride.¬† Sunshine was just ahead in another family's car and we had successfully completed 3/4 of the trip.¬† With only two hours left to go, my car suddenly died. I'll spare you all of the long details of all that transpired over the next 9 hours, but it was enough to make even the world's most secure, well-adjusted child have a screaming fit.¬† I stayed calm and tried to make the most of the situation, and I don't think the Littles ever realized I had not planned… [more]

Where the Rubber Meets the Road

June 14th, 2012

TInker SassyThe first Thursday after we got back from our trip, Tink had her four-year-well-check.¬† On Saturday, she vomited when she awoke.¬† This is not too unusual given her history of reflux.¬† She ate normally and seemed fine, if slightly subdued, the rest of the day so I ignored it.¬† Saturday night she laid down on the couch, covered her head and fell asleep at 7:00.¬† Hmmm.¬† Sunday, she awoke with a fever and vomiting.¬† I chalked it up to the virus the boys had had the week before. By Sunday evening she was clearly very ill.¬† She seemed very, very ill. ¬† I took her to the children's hospital.¬† After 6 hours in the ER, a whole unit of fluids and no… [more]

Tinker is Four! A Love Thursday Post

May 24th, 2012

TInker SassyIt's been a long time coming.¬† Our little Tinker is finally four.¬† She had to suffer through both brothers, Daddy and Mommy all having birthday in the last two months.¬† It was torture. When the Littles arrived in our home, Tinker was only 20 months old, a baby really.¬† She talked and walked, but just barely.¬† She was a little round chub and spent most of her days "tinkering" with things around the house.¬† She was an expert at removing outlet covers.¬† She rarely played with toys as she was too busy seeing what she could reach on the counters.¬† A late walker (17 months) she was still regularly tumbling over those days. Today, she's a "typical four."¬† She dresses herself and… [more]

Love Thursday – Three

April 12th, 2012
Categories: Love Thursday

"The Blitz" turned 3 last week.¬† I can hardly believe it.blitz - three This child began life outside the womb at 27 weeks gestation; he weighed 2 lbs. 7 oz.¬† He was tiny.¬† I didn't know him then, although it seems as though I've always known him. He went from the hospital (several weeks later!) straight to foster care and his foster parents loved him as their own.¬† Thus he had the best possible start in life:¬† two parents who loved and cherished him. He came to us at 10 months, a sweet and joyful baby.¬† He began crawling at about 11 months and walked at 16 months.¬† He got his nickname, "The Blitz" because the minute he began crawling, he was as fast… [more]

Love Thursday

February 23rd, 2012
Categories: Love Thursday

The captain - haircutIn four days, we will celebrate 2 years of "The Littles" - our 3 youngest - coming to live in our house. In many ways, it seems as like a very, very long time and in others, it seems like yesterday. This little guy, whom we call "The Captain"¬† was just shy of 3 years old when they came.¬† He was not speaking at all back then, save three things from "Dora the Explorer."¬† He grunted and cried to communicate.¬† He's not speaking at age-level now, but last night, he asked a question in a perfectly executed¬† 7-word sentence.¬† That's huge. Of the three, he has been the most challenging, no doubt because he's had the most loss.¬† We were his… [more]

Satisfaction

December 8th, 2011

Blitz children's tree Welcome to Love Thursday!¬† Isn't he beautiful? This is our 2-1/2 year old.¬† He was only 10 months old when "The Blitz" and his two older siblings joined our family as foster kids.¬† We're a "forever family" now and in this photo, he is making himself at home. It will be "The Littles" second Christmas with us and the first one where they have any idea what is going on.¬† Since our oldest daughter was a "little" herself, we've had two Christmas trees in the house.¬† One tree that Mama is in charge of decorating -- though lots of others help --and one tree that is only for the children.¬† They get to decorate it and they are allowed (and encouraged) to… [more]